He Thinks My Mom Jeans Are Sexy: 4 Ways To Feel Sensual In Spit Up

Do you remember how much fun you had going on dates before you had kids? When you felt young and beautiful, like your husband could be proud to have you on his arm. Is it even possible to be a sexy mom?

It’s hard to feel desirable when you’re covered in baby food, haven’t brushed your hair all day, and you can’t remember the last time you wore anything but yoga pants and Birkenstocks. 

But, mama, I promise you: he thinks your mom jeans are sexy. 

We all have trouble looking past our own insecurities and believing that anyone else, even your husband, could either.

But let’s flip the script for a minute. When your hubby looks in the mirror and sees those new patches of gray in his hair, he probably sees them as an indication that he’s leaving his best years behind him. But I’m willing to bet to you see them as your husband getting better with age. 

Is it so hard to believe he might see you in the same light?

I assure you, your husband isn’t looking for perfection anymore than you are. He just wants to be with you. To celebrate your marriage. Even when your legs are hairy and your shirt is on inside out. 

A healthy marriage is as important to your motherhood as it is to your well being, so don’t neglect it because you feel less than worthy. Here are 4 ways I’ve found to help myself feel sensual even when I’m covered in spit up.

1. Get cleaned up

There’s nothing that can melt away the mom persona and bring back the strong, confident woman faster than a long, hot shower, freshly shaved legs, and a little makeup. Now, I’m not talking full on makeover – just a 5 minute fresh face. And I promise the reflection in the mirror will look more like the woman you remember. 

Keep it simple. You don’t have to spend a lot of time or money. Just take a few minutes and put you first. 

If you need help with the kids to pull off a little time for yourself, ask for it. 

If you tell your husband that you need a few minutes to feel human again and bring back the sexy mom he loves, most men would be glad to help. Don’t forget, it’s for his benefit too! Men are much more visual than we are, so he is sure to appreciate your efforts. 

2. Buy an outfit that makes you feel like a million bucks.

Getting dressed up is hard when your closet is full of clothes that don’t fit. Our bodies change when we have kids, and that’s not a bad thing. Those curvy hips are a sign that your body is strong enough to bring life into this world. Don’t ever be ashamed of that.

When I embarked on my journey toward a more simplistic life, one of the best pieces of advice I received was to donate everything that didn’t fit. Clothes that are too small are a remnant of the past. Let them go and make room to embrace this season. 

Obviously, most people’s finances won’t allow for a whole new wardrobe, but try to only keep clothes you feel good wearing. Even if that means a little less variety for now. You’ll find that you feel more confident when everything hanging in your closet fits well and looks nice.

Then, when you’re able, buy something new that makes you feel like a knockout. Every woman should have that one outfit she pulls out when the grandparents unexpectedly offer to babysit and give you a date night. 

Don’t let your body shape, weight, or any other imperfection stop you from taking this step. There’s not a woman alive, whether she wears a size two or a size twenty who feels perfectly comfortable in her skin. We all struggle with self image. 

Please hear me on this, sweet friend. You are a beautiful child of God. Created in His image. Absolutely perfect in your imperfection. Don’t let the what ifs and some days keep you from embracing life now.

3. Keep yourself well groomed

It’s the simple things like getting our hair cut that fall to the wayside when life gets busy. We can always pull our hair up into a ponytail or cover it with a baseball cap, but dinner isn’t going to cook itself. Am I right?

When we let the basics go – things like hair cuts, shaving our legs, and keeping our eyebrows plucked – we feel like hiding from the world. And it’s more than just not feeling pretty. We feel like we’re failing. Because somehow all those other moms manage to keep up, but here we are, drowning in overwhelm.

There are times where this is a necessity. Survival mode kicks in and we’re really and truly barely covering the basics. But most of the time, this is a product of not prioritizing ourselves properly.

There will always be a million things demanding your attention. If you don’t make the time to take care of yourself, no one else will.

4. Do something that makes you happy

As moms, we have a tendency to put ourselves last. Because there are always so many plates to balance, taking time away can feel like an indulgence. We forget that a full tank ensures mama is better able to pour out love on everyone else. 

And this has a cyclical effect. When you take time to recharge, you come back vibrant and ready to take on the world. Your husband will notice the change in your attitude, and he’ll want more of this pleasant, easy to please wife he’d forgotten existed. So he’ll encourage you to take more time for yourself.

It’s so easy to let ourselves get caught up in being everything to everyone, but our lives, our marriages, and our motherhood all improve when we aren’t wrung out and running on empty. It can be hard to make time in your mom, wife, homeschool life, but it’s so important!

Don’t let taking care of yourself become something you reserve for holidays and special occasions. You deserve to feel desirable every day. 

I’m not saying you need to dress like a supermodel to lounge around the house, but it is possible to feel like a sexy mom in yoga pants when you pair them with a shirt you love. You won’t panic if someone knocks on your door unexpectedly when your hair is styled in an easy to manage way you love. And every woman feels more confident and put together when she takes time away to rest and restore.

Obviously, we all have those crazy days where we feel like the creature from the swamp, but those should be the exception not the rule. Because your marriage matters. And you matter, mama! Don’t ever forget that.

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